I am so much interested in 7D after watching youtube videos...but...

I currently own Sony NEX5 camera and it is wonderful considering my Point-n-Shoot background, but now I feel its not enough...for few reasons...I attended indoor event as unofficial photographer and sometimes had to waiting for few seconds before taking next snap, because camera simple would not take the photo when I click it!! I am ready to have camera with faster autofocus. Trying to take a snap of my little one jumping off a sofa and freeze the snap when she is in air is almost like a dream with NEX5, it simple does not take crisp photo of fast action. I am going to do lots & lots of kids photography which involves taking snaps of kids in indoor events as well as outdoor running/climbing/jumping etc, both of which are very quick(Its impossible to ask kids to steady for camera!! ) Apart from that I love to take natural potraits poses(Hate to ask "Please look at the Camera...", it simply ruins the moment, which is exactly what I want to capture). Budget wise T3i/T4i are so lucrative, but want to hear from all of you experts(I read many reviews here and details you guys provide is amazing).

1. I made good use of flip screen on NEX5(taking over the head, ground level shots etc ), as I did lot of videos, so having flip screen would be great!

2. I never used it on manual, as I do very less landscape/nature which give you ample time to trial-n-error settings. I think with kids autofocus/autoaperture/autoshutter gives more acceptable snaps than on full/part manual mode, as I simply don't have time to change settings more than few seconds.

3. I love to share snaps as soon I take them, hope there are camera's with wireless upload feature(eyefi card is simply very slow for DSLRs)!! 

4. No offence to female readers out there, but in my experience, all the ladies I know hate the camera settings! I am sure there will be many female photography enthusiasts, its just that I have yet to meet one!   I wish my wife, who don't like too may settings can take my snaps without complaining about camera settings(There should be wife mode!!). With that auto mode is must...

I am desperately waiting for someone to help me make up my mind...!!

Thanks in advance ....

-Ayan