I myself own the 50d and the best standard lens for this camera is the canon EF-S 17-55 F/2.8 USM IS. It's not cheap and it's not light, but if you're serious about this hobby that's the zoom to get. Tamron and sigma has more affordable versions of this lens, but they can't match it's performance.
If you don't mind the distortions and fringing, the Canon EF-S 15-85mm f/3.5-5.6 USM IS is also a good choice, but it's not as fast as the 17-55 (wich is more expensive and heavier).
I used to own the kit lens (18-55) when I had the 350d, and it was fine for family shootouts, but trust me, you'll soon crave for a better lens as soon as you start to shoot with the 50d.
The 50mm 1.8 is also great for a beginner, because it's sharp, fast and very cheap.
I'd stay away from long zooms, unless you rather have commodity instead of maximal quality.
My final advice: try different lenses for yourself and start off with the best you can get on the 2nd hand market. If you buy wisely you can sell it again for about the same amount you bought.

